So much has been going on I hardly have a chance to think. My mom and dad are living with us for at least the next 4-6 months, conservatively. It has been a challenge. It is such a major adjustment for all of us. We are taking it one day at at time. Much of the work has fallen on WW. What ever life she had is really consumed by home. She needs a vacation. My mom does almost all of the hygiene care is never more than 15 feet away from him. He is healing, slowly. They sent a therapist out to our house to assess his memory and cognitive function. He was very disappointed with his lack of ability. His doctor will be pulling his license so he cannot drive. That has been a really hard reality for them to face, since my mother has not driven for 9 years because she is partially blind from Macular Degeneration. Loosing that independence has made them both very depressed. I can't blame them. When it is my time to stop driving...I'm not going to go quietly...but I will stop because I know it's the right thing to do. We have thought that he should not be driving for the last 2 years, so it is a relief on many levels.
Mr. Baby has not gotten the attention that I had hoped, but I am dealing with that. Just being able to be pregnant is a gift. Knowing that he is there waiting to be born and meet us face to face is the best gift.
Unfortunately I have developed some pretty bad physical problems at this stage in the pregnancy. About week 22 my knees were starting to be very sore. I had an old injury in the right knee and it started to really flare up after being without pain for 3 years. Then the left knee started to swell and be painful. Now at nearly 28 weeks I can barely walk. To walk more than 20 feet is excruciating. Really. I have only gained 10 pounds in the pregnancy due to a big weight loss in the first trimester of 15 pounds. I don't think it's the extra weight. I think my knees just don't like the loosy goosy joints of pregnancy.
I went to my GP because sometimes I just don't know which MD to go to. Anyway she gave me a disabled parking sticker and requested that I telecommute to work for the next three weeks.
I only take Tylenol and honestly I am not comfortable with the amount I am taking, but it's that or...don't walk, don't stand, and use a diaper. There are enough people in this house using diapers. That's not somewhere I want to go.
I have other ailments, back pain, sleepless nights, painful and sore hips, a serious lack of urine retention, and a lot of lower abdominal pain (I am carrying low), but none of these amount to the pain of tyring to walk. I can't even stand up straight. I also ice my knees 3-4 times a day to get the inflammation down. The inflammation wraps all the way around from the front to the back of my knees. I have tried a cane, walker, and sometimes my dad's wheelchair. The cane and walker put a great deal of weird pressure on my lower abdomen. So much so that it occasionally creates major ligament pain and even some contractions. So those options are not going to work for me.
My Gestational Diabetes is under control with the help of Gly*bu*ride. I have had to increase my dose about every two weeks (up about a 1/2 a tab). At this rate I will be on insulin by the end of the pregnancy. I'm not sure I even care. It really takes a backseat to my knee problems. I just want to walk.
No off line baby shopping for me. I would ask WW to wheel me around in my dad's wheelchair through the stores but neither one of us can take that time right now.
Because of all that has gone on I have gotten very far behind at work. I have to teach myself how to work from home. It's not as easy as it sounds. So far my boss is understanding but not making deadlines is a big problem, so I try to work on weekends to supplement the time I spend trying to take care of myself and helping take care of my parents. It's a lot.
In spite of it all it is the lack of walking that has taken the biggest toll on me. It makes me cry many times a day and makes me feel so bad for WW and all she has to do.
Until next time...
4 comments:
So much stuff going on when you should be contemplating your navel. I hope that your father gets better, but I'm embarrassed to say I don't know what's wrong. My dad is having some problems now that are kind of scaring me, and my mom isn't around anymore to clue me in on the day to day goings on.
Do you think a knee brace would help? Maybe it would keep down the swelling. Unfortunately, I don't know much about it, but maybe your doctor could refer you to a specialist? And maybe s/he could prescribe some pain medication that would work better but that would still be safe for the baby?
Oh, honey, you have so much happening. I agree with MM - can a specialist tell you anything? It sounds excruciating and there has to be something to make this easier for you. And I'm so sorry about your parents- I hope that this gets better.
You are in my thoughts. I'm just happy that the GD is under control, albeit on progressively higher meds. That should be the easiest part of all of this, and I'm sure you have it all down like clockwork by now.
Are things any better, Daisy? You are getting close!
I love your blog! I'm glad to know your procedure was successful! Your son is wonderful boy! I wish you and your family all the best! My dh and I were ttc for a very long time. I've got pregnant in 2009 and we thought that finally our prayers were heard. Unfortunately my pregnancy ended with a miscarriage. We've lost our son and it was shocking for whole our family. I couldn’t get back to life for a long time. I’m glad I have my dh. He gave me support I needed the most. We wanted to have kids so much, it was our only dream. Living childless life wasn't a variant for us. We were thinking about adoption at first. But we wanted our child to be genetically related to our family. Still I had some doubts. My dh looked at this procedure positively. It would be his child anyway. I thought I would be just some woman, who will carry a baby. I have a fear, that everyone will notice it's not mine. I thought it will be obvious and people will talk about it... Also I watched a tv show about de ivf. Some children started to look for women, who shared eggs with these kids' mothers. That was so sad. Those mothers didn't deserve such attitude. They made everything possible their children to have all they need and even more. And here is gratitude. But as this procedure was our only solution of our problem, I made a decision to do it. I should say de ivf is a very good option. I had this procedure in 2014. I've got pregnant from first attempt. We were on seventh heaven! Our girls were born in May 2015. We've just celebrated their first birthday. We used Ukrainian clinic BioTexCom. We are happy parents now! I have no regrets. As soon as I knew I'm pregnant all doubts were wiped out. We decided not to tell our daughters we used donor eggs. I think children' mind is not ready for such info. This fact will change nothing for them. The most important is to give them love and care. I consider myself as their only mother. This is everything they need to know.
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