Lately, especially the last week or so, it's been hard to hide the fact that the front of me is growing. Already having some weight on the belly, I am sure that it looks like more of the same to most. But to me and my top button on my pants, the increase feels bigger than it probably looks. I have been covering up more. I am not ready for people at work to know.
It does raise a question though, when did you tell your boss you were pregnant? Because WW works in a hospital around hazardous biological materials and radiation, she told her boss the moment we knew, after the double pink lines. But I work in an office setting and I'm just not sure when to tell him. He is a new boss for me (just 2 months working for him) because I was reassigned to a new consulting project. So...what to do? I guess I should go to HR and get the real scoop on maternity leave and long term leave as well. I have read all the company policies, but that wont tell me the real story of what their options are. Any advice?
In other news there are only 3 more sleeps until my big 12 week work-up. I can't wait! I hope that all is well. I have been having many rotating symptoms. I am never symptom free but they do like to take turns. I have heartburn and acid reflux every day all day and at night. But then, I will have a day where I don't have it, but in exchange I get THE BIG headache. Then the headache subsides and I get major nausea for a while.
I have certain symptoms I can count on.
Every night I get up 2 or more times to use the restroom.
Every morning I gag brushing my teeth.
Around 10 am I am starving, even if I had a snack at 9 am. Of course I can only eat a little because of the heartburn, etc.
Every day around 2 pm the fatigue hits me. I yawn and yawn. I can barely keep my eyes open. I am just looking for a place to lay down. That lasts until I go to bed.
I have nausea every day many times per day. But it really hits around 4 pm every afternoon and lasts until 6:30 or 7 pm. It's intense. Lots of panting, salivating, and pleading for it to go away. Any sign or smell of food during this time is a nightmare for me. So I usually sequester myself in the far corner of the house to avoid dinner time.
At around 9 pm I am hungry no matter when I ate and I have made it a habit to have some bran cereal at this time to get me through until morning.
These are the times that reassure me that my body is being taken over by aliens. Wonderful, sweet, adorable aliens, that I have longed to carry for most of my life.
5 comments:
So glad everything is going well! I don't have any advice about your boss - I didn't tell anyone we were pg (last time) until we were past the amnio - 20w - hard to believe I could wait that long now! Not even my parents. Good luck with whatever you decide!
Go aliens!
I'm not a good one to ask. My boss knew all about our DE cycle at the time we were doing it -- he was fascinated by it. I had to explain why, after recently transferring to his department, that I would be having to take three days off but I couldn't say when (that was when I was actually listening to my RE about resting for three days post transfer -- what a waste of sick time!). I just came out and said why.
So, he knew shortly after we knew. He was great. I've since changed organizations, and so did he. He's still my boss. He knows we're still trying. He actually joked about it, because I hired into a different job at this new place and transferred over to him a few months later. The joke? Gee, transfer to my group, and try to get pregnant. And, transfer to my group, and try to get pregnant again. He is great though. Unfortunately, we are still trying, a couple years later.
My mother, on the other hand, didn't show until she was over seven months pregnant. She didn't tell anyone until she was ready to quit. I'm sure they just loved that. But there weren't the protections then that we have now: http://www.eeoc.gov/facts/fs-preg.html
It does depend on your job, and whether or not this guy is a jerk. If HR has an intranet website, you could probably find out what you need to know there.
I couldn't help with the boss advice either becuase mine at the time was more a peer than a supervisor, and she knew about our cycle and I told her as soon as I knew. However, no one else was told (my sr management, other lateral and lower level employees) until I hit 12 weeks - that was my superstition talking.
Tell whenever you are ready.
Sorry about the nausea and reflux - I remember and it's awful. For nausea lemons helped me a lot - putting some in water and sipping, or literally just sniffing them. for the reflux I went on zantac and took it religiously (per OB's orders) and it really helped.
Glad that things seem to be going well! I would wait to tell your boss after 13 weeks or so.
Also - when I was PG I also gagged when brushing my teeth. I got some orange-flavored toothpaste and voila, no more gagging. So just a suggestion to maybe try some different flavors. I could not deal with mint!
I am so excited for you. we had a donor embryo cycle too and have a great set of twin girls
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