My RE contacted me today. They informed me that our donor, who was in cycle in May, had to have the cycle cancelled at the last minute, 2 days before transfer. Apparently the recipient had taken some medications improperly and the cycle was cancelled for her and thereby the donor as well. So, as a result, the donor is going to re-stim for that couple again in July...putting off our cycle until late Sept.
Okay, maybe I am being cynical but don't you think the May couple should go to the back of the line? I mean, how exactly do you take the wrong meds? Unless the clinic screwed them up (eyebrows raised). I knew that our cycle was not going to be until Sept. but I didn't know why.
The entire reason they called was to let me know that the couple we matched with has dropped out of the program. So unless they can match us with someone by Sept. there will be no cycle at all. That is unless we stumble over an extra $12,000 laying around somewhere.
I am on the roller coaster again, but the drops and spins and g-force isn't freaking me out now...why? Have I really made peace with the insanity?
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I don't know what to say or think after reading this, so I can only imagine what you must be feeling. There's 3 months to September, so I suppose the good news is that it's a couple of months to find another match for your shared cycle. Yet, it's also couple months of waiting and not knowing if September will be the month you cycle or not.
Too bad you can't team up with the May couple. Too bad this all sucks, also. I had almost a year's worth of delays for my first donor... most (not all) of them not my fault. Frustrating, yet you sound calm. Go you.
Daisy - have you looked into a cycle at Cooper in NJ? They are very reasonable and they do shared cycles all the time. You pay a $400 fee and get into the system, and then you get a monthly donor list and choose up to 10 choices. It may take up to 6 months to get a match for a shared cycle, but most people I know matched in 1-2 months (I've heard it takes longer becuase you have to establish longevity but not sure that's a real issue). If you have had all your testing within the last 6 months I think you just sent it all over, and pay another couple hundred for a remote cycle - you'd just have to be monitored locally. Cooper would send you lots of literature if you're interested, and there's a message board with tons of activity from Cooper recipients. Let me know if you want me to send the site to you.
And regardless of whether you do it that way or with your current clinic, while the waiting sucks, you are definitely on your way to a new cycle. Just keep telling yourself that. Like a mantra. :)
That sucks!!!! More waiting, and feeling depressed about the birthdays piling up doesn't help while the delays keep happening (I totally understand -- my birthdays never came so quickly as they have since I first started TTC).
How in the h*ll can you screw up your meds, especially since they give you a chart with everything you are supposed to do on it, by date. Morons.
oh daisy that must be so frustrating! i say they should go to the back of the line. so sorry.
daisy, I think there does come a point in the process where you stop freaking about things out of your control and kind of roll with the punches. Yet, that doesn't make any of this less sucky. You do sound calm. And you are moving forward, which is always better than backwards, right? Thinking of you.
I'm with Summer - I can't believe someone else won't show up in the next three months to share a cycle with. Glad you at least have some peace in the waiting.
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